Take Time
TAKE TIME FOR YOUR SELF
“𝑲𝒆𝒆𝒑 𝒘𝒂𝒍𝒌𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒕𝒉𝒓𝒐𝒖𝒈𝒉 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒔𝒕𝒐𝒓𝒎. 𝒀𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒓𝒂𝒊𝒏𝒃𝒐𝒘 𝒊𝒔 𝒘𝒂𝒊𝒕𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒐𝒏 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒐𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒓 𝒔𝒊𝒅𝒆.” – 𝑯𝒆𝒂𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒓 𝑺𝒕𝒊𝒍𝒍𝒖𝒇𝒔𝒆𝒏.
When starting over, it is important to take the time to reconnect with yourself before getting into another relationship.
During this time, you need to build yourself up personally, emotionally, socially, psychologically, and financially. It is time to get clarity.
In any relationship it takes two people for it to work or to tumble. Look at the areas in which you contributed to the fall of the previous relationship and see how you can do to improve on that. Time will provides that clarity.
Do not be in a hurry. When you decide to engage again make sure that your partner:
Does not need you emotionally to stabilize them
Is not broken and needs you to fix him/her
Is bouncing off of a relationship and needs a shoulder to cry on (Avoid rebound relationships)
Is not in some sort of “problem” and needs you to bail them out
Is not psychologically unstable with mood swings that vary and are extreme
Does not need you financially to take care of him/her
How do you know that he or she is the one?
When there is no reason to need you. That they want you.
When they love you for who you are and do not need you to complete them.
Make sure you are complete too and that you do not need someone to complete you.
When they can do without you but chose to be with you.
When they like your company and prefers to spend time with you.
When they want to be your companion in this relationship and in life in order to do things together with you. Someone who likes to be in your presence, no matter what you are doing
“𝑺𝒐𝒎𝒆𝒅𝒂𝒚 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒘𝒊𝒍𝒍 𝒇𝒐𝒓𝒈𝒆𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒉𝒖𝒓𝒕, 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒔𝒐𝒏 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒄𝒓𝒊𝒆𝒅 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒘𝒉𝒐 𝒄𝒂𝒖𝒔𝒆𝒅 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒑𝒂𝒊𝒏. 𝒀𝒐𝒖 𝒘𝒊𝒍𝒍 𝒇𝒊𝒏𝒂𝒍𝒍𝒚 𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒍𝒊𝒛𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒔𝒆𝒄𝒓𝒆𝒕 𝒐𝒇 𝒃𝒆𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒇𝒓𝒆𝒆 𝒊𝒔 𝒏𝒐𝒕 𝒓𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒏𝒈𝒆, 𝒃𝒖𝒕 𝒍𝒆𝒕𝒕𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒈𝒔 𝒖𝒏𝒇𝒐𝒍𝒅 𝒊𝒏 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒊𝒓 𝒘𝒐𝒏 𝒘𝒂𝒚 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒐𝒘𝒏 𝒕𝒊𝒎𝒆. 𝑨𝒇𝒕𝒆𝒓𝒂𝒍𝒍 𝒘𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒎𝒂𝒕𝒕𝒆𝒔 𝒊𝒔 𝒏𝒐𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒇𝒊𝒓𝒔𝒕 𝒃𝒖𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒍𝒂𝒔𝒕 𝒄𝒉𝒂𝒑𝒕𝒆𝒓 𝒐𝒇 𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒍𝒊𝒇𝒆 𝒘𝒉𝒊𝒄𝒉 𝒔𝒉𝒐𝒘𝒔 𝒉𝒐𝒘 𝒘𝒆𝒍𝒍 𝒘𝒆 𝒓𝒂𝒏 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒓𝒂𝒄𝒆. 𝑺𝒐 𝑺𝑴𝑰𝑳𝑬, 𝑳𝑨𝑼𝑮𝑯, 𝑭𝑶𝑹𝑮𝑰𝑽𝑬, 𝑩𝑬𝑳𝑰𝑬𝑽𝑬, 𝑨𝑵𝑫 𝑳𝑶𝑽𝑬 𝑨𝑳𝑳 𝑶𝑽𝑬𝑹 𝑨𝑮𝑨𝑰𝑵.” – 𝑼𝒏𝒌𝒏𝒐𝒘𝒏.